Remove your Money Blocks and Create New Money Habits in 4-Steps: Part 4
Hi Friends, my name is Lucas and welcome to the 4th and final session of how to remove your financial blocks. If you feel stuck, or challenged with money and your not sure what to do about it, you’re in the right place!
In the first 2 sessions we identified everything keeping us stuck and in the 3rd, we looked at how to dissolve some of our blocks. If you haven’t completed those sessions, check ‘em out now and return when you’re done.
In today’s session we’ll look at how to let go of our most stubborn financial blocks, So, open up your free workbook or download it now and let’s get to it! (If you prefer to watch the video, please check it out here…)
Getting To The Root of Your Financial Problems
As we discussed in session 3, some financial blocks can be replaced with a change of habit but if you’re anything like me or the majority of my clients, the most challenging blocks tend to be the things going on inside.
When we feel like we’re not good enough or smart enough to have money, or maybe we avoid it, or we buy things to make ourselves feel better.. those thoughts and feelings can be difficult to break.
But when we identify the source of our problems and remove it, then recognize the damage that it caused so we don’t repeat, we can clear the block and then practice more productive behaviors.
It’s out with the old by replacing it with the new.
Identify The Source of Your Problems And Remove It:
Let’s look at an example.. Let’s say that one of the thoughts holding you back is that
“There’s never enough money”
Growing up, you heard your Mom and Grandma say it and as an adult, you have plenty of evidence that there’s not enough. Now, most people, including myself, assume that a lack of money is the problem so we hustle to make more, but still live paycheck to paycheck. Do you know why?
Because a lack of money and things like an empty savings account and borrowing on credit are not the problem, they’re symptoms of the problem. And when we treat symptoms without addressing the root cause , it’s like cutting a weed off at the surface. It'll disappear for a bit but it’ll grow back stronger.
The real problem, the root cause, is the belief that there’s not enough..
This one little thought, which, by the way, was not your idea, remember, you borrowed it from people who don’t have a great relationship with money - but this little idea traps us in cycle of self doubt, fear and feelings that there’s not enough.
So how do we break the cycle? By Removing The Root cause, which in this case is the idea that “there’s never enough money”. And how do we do that?
First, start by recognizing that when someone says “there’s never enough money”, it’s their opinion, based on their personal experiences - it’s like they’re trying to hand you their financial baggage but, you don’t have to accept it
Put yourself in their shoes for a moment. If Grandma grew up during war and famine, her experience with money is that “there was not enough” But has that been your experience? Investigate the thought or feeling.
Second, ask questions like, “Is what I’m thinking or feeling an Absolute Truth?” - I’ll give you hint… It’s not. And if you’re really feeling stuck, a great follow up question is, “Does this thought or feeling HAVE to be true for me?”.
Think about it for a moment.. There’s lot of people out there, who started with nothing and now have plenty - I think they would strongly disagree with the idea that “there’s not enough”, the difference is, they choose not to believe other people’s opinions.
So, take a look at your hurt list from session 2 and for each thought or belief that’s holding you back, start asking questions and shift your perspective. Essentially what you’re doing is de-bunking the “myths” that you’ve heard.
Balance The Effects of The Old Behavior
If you’ve spent a big part of your life thinking that “there’s never enough” and now you realize that it was a myth, that the idea does not have to be true for you, Congratulations! When we let go of our past restraints, we open ourselves up to new possibilities.
In step 2, we want to balance out the effects of the old behavior. Let me explain.. when we think there’s not enough we go into “survival mode” which causes a ripple effect…
It starts by worrying that there’s not enough, so then we chase after more, we become protective over what we have and all of these behaviors show up as empty savings accounts, poor spending habits, borrowing on credit and living paycheck to paycheck.
So the goal of step 2 is to get clear on what survival tactics we’ve developed as a result of our financial block. I made a list in session 4 of your workbook. Please circle all habits that apply. Then ask yourself, “what impact have these effects had on your life? What have they cost you?”
It can be quite jarring to realize how much of an effect one little idea can have but i encourage you to use this new awareness as motivation to break through your financial blocks. Now the cool things is, we don’t have to remove any of these effects..
Why? Because once we remove the root cause, all of these effects, all of these symptoms, will dissolve.
Create A New Experience With Money
The beauty of step 3, is that you’re already well versed in how it works. What do I mean? I walked you through the entire process in session 3. If you recall, the simplest way to break through financial blocks is to practice new behaviors - but when the block is more challenging, we must identify the source of the problem, remove it and be aware of the damage that behavior caused.
By removing the roots, the weed cannot grow back which makes practicing new financial behaviors much easier.
So, pick a thought or feeling that’s keeping you stuck and remove it, recognize the damage it created and then practice new, more productive behaviors.
And if your still feeling stuck, let’s hop on a free 1 on 1 call. I’d love to help you get un-stuck
Now, let’s recap the sessions and get you on your way!
Problems with money exist in two places - if you’d like to create a healthy relationship with money, practice balance between the internal and the external
Bring Awareness to your financial past and identify all of the behaviors that are contributing to your financial well being versus the ones that are destroying it.
The simplest way to break through financial blocks is to practice new behaviors so come up with new habits to replace the old ones
So, To let go of the most stubborn blocks, identify the source and remove it, recognize the damage it created and then choose to practice more productive behaviors.
When we bring Awareness to the things that limits us and learn how to let them go, we’re able to reinvent ourselves and our relationship to money. I Invite you to consider that by breaking through your financial blocks, you’re removing old habits, thoughts, ideas and perspectives.
And while these behaviors may no longer serve you, they delivered you to this moment and that’s pretty rad!
As you move forward, recognize that you’re building an entirely new nervous system, and that takes time. So, do your best to relax into the process.
I hope you enjoyed this series as much as I loved making it and would love to hear from you. Leave a comment and if you have not liked or subscribed, please do. And if you know anyone that could benefit from this 4 part series, please share it.
Thank you so much for your time and energy and thank you for choosing to show up for you. I’ll see you in the next one.
Today’s lesson is a tiny fraction of what I share in the Big Split program so if you’d like to transform your finances in 1 week, click here to schedule a free 60 minute call with me.
Lucas Z.